Red Thread to Sophia

Monday, February 27, 2006

One on One

So Saturday was my one on one with our SW. It was the greatest visit. She learned all my deepest and darkest. Along the way she also learned that I can't tell a story to save my life. The best part was that she allowed me to learn about her too. I asked her all sorts of personal questions about her own daughters that she adopted from China. She never hesitated to talk openly to me. I love that about her. I know how fortunate that we are to have her as our SW.

We went "window shopping" for Sophie yesterday. I'm not sure if I loved it or hated it. I really dig thinking of all the things that we are going to get for her. I love going through all the sweet girlie stuff. The part that hurts is that it's going to be soooooo long until we actually start getting these things. Even longer after that until she gets to put them to use.

Today was our first visit at the doctor to get our physical exams done. Nothing too bad. I wasn't really worried about it, but nobody ever wants to go to the doctor. I'll be a happy camper once it's all done.

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

First SW visit

We had our first SW visit this weekend. I really have to say that she was very nice. I was really happy that my house showed true to our everyday living. Besides, I don't think that she is one of those people that is looking to be impressed. She seems very down to earth. It just seems like she wants to know us, not some over the top perfect version of us. We have a good home and a good marriage. Notice that I say good, not the best. We are far from being the best or perfect in any way. It's just our good home and good relationship. We are full of beautiful flaws. I think that I love the flaws the most. The best part is that she has adopted from China twice. She showed us some pictures of her little girls and they are just beautiful. Her youngest daughter is even named Sophia. That was so cool. Even though she was so great I was still all nerves. My fear is that I'm not sure that I look like a good parent on paper (especially next to Frenchie AKA MR. SqueekyClean). I know that I'm going to be a good mom. This is one thing I never doubt myself on. I just pray that somehow that can reflect in her report. I guess that all I can do is be honest about who I am and who Frenchie and I are as a couple.

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Happy Valentines Day!
I am so excited. Last night when I got home from work there was a message from our SW. I instantly called her back at home. The thing is that the phone line was very staticky. I tried to change the channel so that we could hear each other better, but I hung up instead. Thankfully, she was joking with me about the impression that I made by hanging up on her already. She seems pretty cool. We laughed a lot during the conversation. We have scheduled the next four Saturdays to work on our home study. So really the length of time really sucks, but I'm hopeful that things will be fine. I'm glad that I'm not going to have time to really spiff the house up. I keep a clean house, but it's not a sterile. I think that if I had too much time to prepare for her visit I would go over board and it might seem sterile. I did ask Frenchie to clean up the office. It's his room and the only one that I do not clean. I respect that it's his space and really don't try to mess with it too often. I really have no idea what to ware for the first visit. Are jeans okay? Should I go with slacks? If I ware what I normally would then I'll be kicking back in my pj's. I really don't think that she's going to dig my LOVE of pj's.

Monday, February 13, 2006

So I thought that I would give an adoption update. We went this Saturday to our orientation. The 46 families there made up the largest group that CCAI had ever had. It was such a large group that they couldn't use their normal space. They rented out a space from a near by hotel. There was not an empty chair and that entire space was packed in pretty well. Lily, the founder of CCAI, spoke to our group. She is too damn cute! I have to admit that it was long day. A little over four hours in some ass aching chairs. I was pretty bummed that our SW (social worker) was not there to meet with us and schedule some time. I'm really interested to see how all that plays out. I think that our home and Frenchie will hold up pretty well in the SW's eyes, but I'm not so sure about me. After the orientation we spent some time getting our I-600A, adoption petition letter, and clearance report forms done. The sooner we get going the sooner that we'll have our Chinese Princess.